Have you ever experienced waking up feeling good about yourself and then you stand in front of the mirror… and the negative, hateful thoughts creep in? I’m sure most of us have experienced this… it’s so common living in a world where there are high expectations to look a certain way.
So, how to start loving who you see in the mirror?
The only answer to this question is to truly love yourself.
What happens when you love yourself? Your life gets better, you feel better, you believe and trust yourself more. When you deepen your connection with yourself through self-love, you‘ll connect on a deeper level with others too. On the other hand, if you have a negative self image of yourself, your chances of reaching goals and making dreams come true are close to zero.
Loving yourself may seem like it takes time and effort but look at it as an incredible adventure that will bring you plenty of happiness and benefits. I really invite you to open your mind and embrace the potential life-changing improvements that self-love can give to you.
Here are five adventurous ways to help you love who you see in the mirror:
1. Let Go of the Past
The first thing to start loving yourself is to let it go. Dwelling on the past will only make the situation worse, and you will fall even deeper into self-criticism. Instead, take a few moments, think about your past mistakes and learn something from them.
Remind yourself that you are merely a person trying different things and that it is entirely natural to make mistakes sometimes. No one is perfect! We are all human! Learn to see errors as part of the learning experience, forgive yourself, and let them go.
2. Stop Comparing Yourself to Others
This is a struggle most of us can relate to and very damaging to our self worth. Once we release the need to compare ourselves, we can truly be free to be ourselves. Remember, that every person on this planet is different, so comparing yourself to others doesn’t really make any sense. The truth is, you cannot really start loving who you see in the mirror if you are continually trying to look like someone else, to be someone else.
So, remind yourself that everyone in this world, including you, has their good and not so good qualities. That being said, focus on finding your good attributes and try to improve the ones that you don’t really like. And, next time you see yourself in the mirror compare yourself to the person you were yesterday.
3. Give Your Appearance a Little Boost
The third way to love who you see in the mirror is to help yourself feel better about the way you look. Although true happiness comes from inside, we sometimes need to give our appearance a little boost to feel joy from the outside, too.
There are numerous ways you can do so. For example, you can go to your favorite salon and get a new haircut. Alternatively, you can go shopping and buy yourself some new clothes which will help you feel more confident, motivated, stronger, and happier. Haircut and clothes seem like trivial things, but they will instantly change the way you look yourself in the mirror.
4. Start Appreciating Yourself
Start appreciating yourself and giving yourself credit is the fourth way to help you truly love yourself and the person you see in the mirror. Notice the miracle your body is. Right now, in this moment, your body is breathing for you. Your body is delivering vital nutrients to different parts of itself that needs to function. Your body is working around the clock, yet we don’t often slow down and appreciate it. Imagine how well your body would function if you treated it with love, care, respect and compassion? It is time you started gifting yourself with the kind of love your body deserves. Celebrate how far you have come, appreciate what your body can do. Thank your body each day for the miracle it is!
5. Choose Your Company Wisely
Last but not least, choose your company wisely. Imagine spending time with people who only have negative thoughts. It does nothing to help you love who you are. Ideally, you should spend most of your time talking to people who share the same ideas and interests with you and who will support you unconditionally.
So, find such people and create your ‘dream team’. Such a loving and understanding environment will hugely affect the way you feel about yourself.
Why? Because you will undoubtedly feel the love they give to you, and in return, you will start loving yourself.
Plus, your ‘dream team’ will help you find inspiration and motivation to think out of the box and reach your goals.
If you are struggling to shift the beliefs that hold you back from loving who you are, then maybe I can help set yourself free from these thoughts once and for all, using a very simple method.
I have been where you are right now. You are so much stronger than you believe. Once we get rid of a few major beliefs, a lot of things will start to change. You can focus on the future and you will see yourself as a totally new woman, confident and free.
To loving yourself truly,